Mama bear who craves community, compassion and coffee.
The Persian poet, Rumi wrote: “There is no salvation for the soul but to fall in love. Only from the heart can you touch the sky.”
I have fallen in love LOTS of times in my life, often secretly hoping to heal the hurts from my past.
I always saw myself as a hopeless romantic, feeling that love should be like the songs we hear and the lovey dovey sitcoms and movies we watch.
On multiple occasions in my life, I attempted forcefully to make a square peg to fit where it was clear a circle belonged.
After one failed marriage under my belt, I wasn’t looking for love or a family when I met Lou.
Nor did he meet the laundry list I constructed of what I thought I wanted in a match.
Still, we began dating.
Three weeks in, I was back to my vigorously persuasive ways to prompt Lou to MARRY ME.
Ay, ay, ay.
As our courtship progressed, I understood clearly how he truly cared for me.
Lou would often spend time with me in Jacksonville and then wake up super early to coach soccer an hour a way. Who would drive in a little putt-putt from Florida to Chicago to attend a wedding after only a few months of dating? Or put up with my pickiness with food and PAY for three lunches while I took all the leftovers home with me?
He certainly did go through those things with me.
What sealed the deal for me was when I explained my sink was clogged. Now, he lived an hour away from me. I came home and found a bottle of Drano and a bouquet of flowers on my door step.
Yup, I was done for.
When we married, our family was formed.
We faced resistance and recognition of being a family from those close to us.
We confronted challenges together. Some of the most painful were based on the browness of my skin.
I felt grateful that we were able to be one when not so far in our country’s distant past miscegenation was the law of the land.
I have felt firsthand rejection of our love.
Warmly, I welcome families to the site, of every configuration. Consider this your haven, full of compassion and caring to continue to cultivate your body, heart and mind.
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